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TPYK is hands down the Gold Star for adult day care. They truly care about our loved ones who attend the program, and provide a wonderful well thought out experience for them.
TPYK should be the model for all adult care facilities for the memory impaired. The new standard moving forward!
2019 survey comment
Our mother has been attending That Place You Know for some time now. A friend told us about this amazing care center, and from day 1 we have never looked back. Krissy provides a nurturing family atmosphere in which my Mom feels totally comfortable, and is thriving. It takes a very special person to welcome people into their home on a daily basis and to be a caregiver at that! She fully engages our Mom with activities including cooking, baking, art, and music. Knowing that our beloved Mama is safe, happy and well cared for is a blessing that no words can adequately describe, and we are so very grateful.
January 13, 2018
The day I learned about the Adult Day Program at That Place You Know, LLC in Hollis, NH, was the day I received an answer to the challenge of caring for my mom, Joan, who had been diagnosed with Dementia just a few weeks before. My mom began spending her days at TPYK with Krissy Wuerdeman and her team & family in July 2017. I spent the six months prior to this attending the Caregiver Support Group meetings and workshop series that Krissy offers to the local community to learn more about how Validation can help Adults with dementia live with purpose and compassion. This method of caregiving is not easy, and not perfect, but learning Validation and having my mom participate in this program has made the road travelled by my family have fewer frost heaves and potholes.
The first day my mom attended the Day Program at TPYK, she walked to my car at the end of the day, and she felt purposeful. She felt as if she had made a contribution back to others, something she had taken great pride in doing her entire life. She simply engaged in folding baby clothes provided by the Stork Project for new moms in need, but she was thrilled! She was giving back. Over the next few months, my mom engaged her old sewing skills to create a quilt. When TPYK was honored with the Silver Sponsor role for our local Old Home Days celebration, more of my mom’s talents were put to work baking her favorite recipes to raise money for the Alzheimer’s Association. My mom and her new friends at TPYK enjoyed collaborating as they created baked goodies with their family recipes.
At TPYK, my mom sang songs loud and with great joy! She danced and moved with her friends. Mom engaged in meaningful Art Therapy. She created gifts for our family that she proudly presented and we displayed in our home. My mom had purpose each day she spent at TPYK. She had new friends who are in the same “place” in life that she is. They never judged. They encouraged, supported and cared about each other. My mom spent her days caring about her friends and her caregivers. She shared herself and her life’s passions in a new and meaningful way. She shared a sense of camaraderie with this “family of elders”. Sharing wisdom, sharing understanding without words when sadness or difficulties were encountered, sharing joy in a “job well done” cooking, creating or singing.
TPYK became my mom’s home even more than my family’s home became her home when she moved in with us last year. At TPYK, my mom got to watch the birds – a favorite pastime her entire life. She got to enjoy her morning tea watching the birds eat outside of the farmhouse windows. Mom had a routine, and she had a role in this home and with this family at TPYK. Mom had days filled with Thoughtfulness, Peacefulness, Youthful Energy and Kindness at TPYK.
My mom (and I) benefitted from the Validation method with Krissy Wuerdeman. Mom reviewed her life experiences one-on-one with Krissy, and as part of her TPYK Validation family. Sharing stories and the importance of the good, the bad, and the ugly and especially the joy of life lived. My mom led Tai Chi with her friends at TPYK. She got this beautiful group up and moving and flowing with purpose and the importance of good breath. She voiced the goodness of particular foods and encouraged everyone to try the new tastes – she even tried new things herself!! She ate her favorites – Raspberry tea, Ice Cream, Tapioca (who remembered how yummy this treat ever was!), soup, quiche, she even liked kielbasa when she was served! The unique home setting of TPYK gave my Mom her sense of home and belonging.
The caregiver support provided with this Adult Day Program is knowledgeable, and filled with love and a passion for caring for elders and all their wisdom, with dignity. This caregiver support has been and continues to be beyond my wildest imagination. I learned in the process of living with the challenges of dementia and “losing” my Mom, that I actually found her and reviewed our family story both with my family of origin and with my extended family. I am not a perfect caregiver, and experience frustration on a daily basis. I have perfection in the love my mom can see in me by caring for her (even though she knows it is not what she wanted for me to have to do). I learned daily how to make my mom’s end of life journey peaceful, which was my ultimate goal. The Wuerdemans offer more than a place for Adults with Memory Impairment to spend their days. TPYK offers wisdom, support, love and especially purpose. These things make the challenges of memory loss a little less “taxing”, a little less “burdensome”, and a lot more joyful. The New England “frost heaves” and “potholes” of memory loss are filled with love at TPYK. Oh the stories my mom could share and the wisdom she has from living her life are recognized every day at TPYK.
Thank you Krissy Wuerdeman and your family, Don, Danielle, Robert, and your wonderful assistant Elizabeth. There are not words to express the gratitude I have for you and the program you offer in our community. There needs to be more of this and less of the other “memory care” in our country!
Kathleen M., Brookline, NH
It was only after my father died that my brother and I realized my mother’s “forgetfulness” was really dementia and we had to make some difficult decisions regarding my mother’s care. I researched extensively and while many places sounded good – used all the right buzz words and catch phrases, And looked good on the outside- with beautifully decorated surroundings I found out quickly there is a lot more to “care” then initially meets the eye. The reality is that you can pay someone to take care of your loved one but you can’t pay someone to care about them no matter how lovely the surroundings are. That is something is that has to come from within an individual caregiver, and is exceptionally hard to find.
My mother ultimately ended up at Sunrise in Burlington MA and we had the incredible good fortune to meet Krissy Wuerdeman, who was the “Life Enrichment Manager/Validation Practitioner” at the time. Words really can’t do justice to how incredible Krissy is. She didn’t just see my mother (or others) as elderly residents on the dementia floor, but as the unique individuals that they are. Krissy, treated my mother, with dignity, respect and love. She ran Validation groups and developed programming that met each person exactly where they were at. They weren’t just groups to pass the time but were interesting and stimulating. I saw people who never spoke, engage in ways I didn’t even know they were capable of doing.
Krissy became a true friend to my mother. And to me. I learned so much from her about loving a parent who has dementia and figuring out the best ways to connect despite the changes in my mom. Krissy’s compassion and humor are a rare and wonderful combination. An added bonus were Krissy’s incredible children who visited with my mother and formed relationships of their own with her. When my mother was diagnosed with cancer, Krissy was right by our sides for the 6 weeks until she passed away. Knowing that someone loved my mother- like she was her own family, made it possible for me to go to work and function during some very difficult times.
Krissy is an extremely gifted and rare individual and she is passionate about what she does. This work is a not a job for Krissy but a calling which shows up in every way. Krissy’s presence in my mother’s life- and in mine- is something I will carry with me and be grateful for the rest of my life.
Joyce Davis, LICSW
Krissy exudes love, understanding, relationship awareness, patience, and empathy to all individuals who enter into her life. Krissy uses her imagination and intuitive thoughts during practice in order to effectively communicate and engage with those living with memory impairment. Krissy’s desire to connect, communicate, and be of service to this population places a gift within the clients, their families and friends with peace of mind and gratitude.
C. Glass Regional Director CA Social Vocational Services, Inc.
Krissy is an educated, experienced, kind, loving, compassionate, dedicated, trustworthy and creative woman. My mom became a member of Krissy’s Validation group and the feedback from Krissy was very helpful to me when communicating with my mom. My mom being a part of this group also gave me an insight on how she was within a group setting on sharing her inner thoughts and sensitive feelings. I spent many hours with my mom and Krissy always had the clients’ full attention with constructive meaningful activities. On Valentine’s Day 2015, I arrived home after a long day at work and retrieved my mail. To my surprise there was a Valentine signed “Love You, Mom” (which was written with the best of my mom’s ability at the time). These valentines were made with Krissy. I told my mom that I received the valentine in the mail and she was so proud that it made me happy. Due to Krissy’s thoughtfulness and creativity, my mom and I will treasure that feeling we both felt forever!
Carol S., Massachusetts
Krissy has a kind and loving spirit. She is completely dedicated and fully engaged in helping others to learn more about themselves during times of challenge and fear. Through her empathic listening and unconditional acceptance, Krissy provides a strong intuitive insight…she is a gift not only to me but to all who are fortunate enough to share in her wonderful work in the world.
Kitrina C., RN, Cincinnati, OH
Krissy Wuerdeman brings care to people living with dementia to another level I have known Krissy on a personal and professional level for two years now, and seen first- hand how she changes the lives of those around her suffering from dementia and similar memory care deficits. Krissy sheds new light for the caregivers, families, and other professionals trying to understand this debilitating and often times confusing disease process. Her understanding of dementia and pioneering skills lead the way for the future of caring for those who suffer. Krissy’s techniques using validation method REALLY WORK! I have witnessed this new and revolutionary technique in action on Krissy’s mother as well as several other people she has volunteered to help along her journey. She is a true blessing, passionate, and above all selfless. A true inspiration to caregivers everywhere, and a light of hope for those we care about most. Original testimonial link.
M. Clauss, LPN
Hi, I’m George. My wife Sally was diagnosed with dementia in 2010. I recently learned about the practice of Validation and quickly realized how much of a powerful tool this technique is for caregivers. As Sally’s caregiver, I was fortunate to secure the services of Krissy Wuerdeman to assess and evaluate Sally’s stage of dementia. Krissy’s work has been remarkable, and she has earned my utmost respect and gratitude for the excellent, rewarding and compassionate Validation work she has performed for Sally. Krissy’s work, spanning a number of visits at various times produced very positive outcomes. She has been able to unearth a “life force” in Sally that has long been struggling to emerge. She has provided me with the feedback I have been seeking and hoping for throughout Sally’s confinement. Prior to the onset of her dementia, Sally was a very bright, active individual. She was a poet, a technical writer and an avid reader. I have long felt that Sally possesses a strong will to survive, but was ill-equipped to prove she was not wasting away as a result of her dementia. Now I feel confident in aggressively utilizing Krissy’s unique approach to Validation in restoring life to my relationship with Sally. Thank you Krissy for making this wonderful outcome possible.
George B., Merrimack
I have had the privilege of training Krissy Wuerdeman in Validation and of watching her grow in her skills. She drove 10 hours a number of times from New Hampshire to Lancaster PA to take my year long course. She has an innate empathy and a very strong work ethic. She is well-suited for Validation care of seniors with dementia. I love her passion for Validation and she is relentless in her loving and Validating care of seniors with dementia. She worked tirelessly with her mother that had dementia and I have witnessed a budding leader in the Validation movement. Anyone who could avail themselves of Krissy’s guidance in learning and growing in Validation would be richly rewarded.
James Day CVT and President of NAVA (North American Validation Association)
Krissy Wuerdeman excelled in my Stillpoint School program on Intuitive healing. She is bright, compassionate, articulate and very committed to making a difference for clients and their families who suffer from dementia. I encourage you to make an appointment and find the incredible value for yourself and your family member. Combining Intuitive Insight with the Validation Method creates the best possible outcome to directly and immediately begin to assist you and/or your loved one. I wish I had had this possibility when my mother was diagnosed with dementia. What a blessing.
Rev. Dr. Meredith Young-Sowers Founder, Director The Stillpoint School of Integrative Healing Author, Agartha, The Angelic Messenger Cards, Spirit Heals